Rachel asks, Do you ever feel embarrassment, anxiety? or shame when you share your truth with others? I'm struggling with that. The short answer is, yeah, I've definitely felt that in the past, I feel it less now. And that's because I've shifted my strategy around how I engage with others. There's certain people in my life who I feel have very clear boundaries, about their ability to receive my truth in certain ways. They have their boundaries, I have mine. And I accept those and I respect those. Now, when it comes to new people in my life, who I may not know very well. My approach has always been to be gentle, and open. But I think the deeper question here is this that comes up is, what is your why? So is it to be seen? Or is it to be accepted? Those are not mutually, those are not the same thing. So what I mean is, sometimes we'll share our truth, because we want another to accept this, or we want sometimes even to manipulate the situation and go, oh, you should believe as I believe, or you should think what I think. And so we have an attachment to the outcome. When you have an attachment to the outcome that is unmet, obviously, you will feel heavy, right? You'll struggle with that, or you'll feel that shame or anxiety. But if your expectation is only to practice the art of being yourself, accepting all outcomes, I do this thing where it's, I go to both extremes, right, the greatest brightest side might be Oh, they accept it, they fully resonate, they're almost the same way. And now we're the best of friends. And the worst is, they really don't resonate, and they ghost me or something like that, right. But accepting that, oh, one, not everyone in this world is going to love who you are, how you show up, they're just not. There are too many variants of how we can show up 8 billion and counting alive right now. There's no way, right. And if you think of it as frequency and color, there are certain colors that go well together. Certain sounds tones that go well together. And there's certain souls the frequency that we hold his souls, beliefs, ideas, ideals, language, age, right? Perspective perception. So once you connect to the reality of that, and let go of your illusion that maybe I'm doing this just to be seen, I'm not saying that this is what you specifically are doing, speaking generally. Or maybe I just want to be accepted by this group, and a certain level of freedom. And you get to learn how to build that strength within that is free of the attachment to the outcome. And that's a big one. Because the illusion of control sneaks in, in all of these precarious ways. And it's kind of this dance, you kind of like snuff it out on this one segment of your life. And it shows itself over here as this little sneaky vine, making its way along the boundary. But when you feel that I would ask myself, hmm, I think I was attached to the outcome. Why was I attached to the outcome? Right? It's probably because I've yet to accept myself fully. Or it could be any number of things. Your journey may be different than mine. But allowing yourself to stay curious about your why. And not projecting it on the other. But looking within because when you're communicating with other people, you don't have any control over what they're going to do or not do. You should always try to maintain a detachment from the outcome and surrender to that part of the impermanence of life. And in place of that, continue to turn your attention inward to self
